An unexpected pregnancy can bring a mix of emotions, but when your partner isn’t on board, it can feel like you’re facing it alone. Their lack of support, whether they’re pushing for abortion, distancing themselves, or just not engaging, can leave you hurt, confused, or stuck. 

At Anderson House, we know this is tough, but we want you to know you have options and ways to move forward, no matter what they think.

Process Your Feelings

First, give yourself permission to feel what you’re feeling—anger, sadness, or even betrayal. It’s okay to be upset if your partner is not stepping up. Journaling or other small self-care activities can help you sort through the fog. 

Their stance doesn’t define your worth or your pregnancy’s value. Acknowledging your emotions clears space to focus on what you want, whether that’s parenting, adoption, or exploring other paths.

Have an Open Conversation

If it feels safe, try talking to your partner. Pick a calm moment and be honest: “I feel alone in this, and I need to know where you stand.” Ask what’s driving their reaction: fear of change, money worries, or something else? 

Understanding their side might not fix things, but it can open a door to compromise or clarity. If they’re unwilling to talk, that’s a signal to lean on other support, like loved ones or friends.

Explore Your Options

Your partner’s opinion matters, but this is ultimately your choice. Take time to think about what feels right for you. Parenting might seem daunting, but resources like classes or community support can make it doable. 

Adoption lets you choose a loving family for your child, with open or private plans to fit your needs. Abortion is another option, but it’s worth learning the risks and realities first. Gathering facts helps you decide with confidence, not pressure.

Build a Support Network

You don’t need your partner’s backing to thrive—other people can lift you up. Friends, family, or a professional client advocate can offer perspective and strength. At Anderson House, we’re here to be that support, providing a nonjudgmental space to talk it out.

Find Support Today

If your partner’s not supporting your pregnancy, you can find help at Anderson House with free and confidential lab-quality pregnancy tests and ultrasound referrals to verify your pregnancy and get key details. 

We also offer adoption referrals and education about all your options, including parenting, adoption, or abortion, so that you can make an informed choice. 

Contact us for a free appointment today. We’re here to walk with you during this difficult time. You’ve got this.